When we were kids, we couldn't wait to be adults. We'd daydream about the freedom, the independence, and how easy life would be when we were 'grown up'. We thought adulting would be a smooth ride. But little did we know what adulthood truly holds😣. Don't get me wrong, it's not all bad. There's so much to love about being an adult - the freedom to make your own decisions, the joy of creating your own path, and the beauty of discovering who you really are, the list is long. But adulthood is not roses either. There are so many things we didn't know, so many lessons we were never prepared for. The biggest ones? The breaking, unlearning, growing, and rebuilding that comes with being an adult.
As adults, we're forced to face the reality that growth isn't just about gaining more knowledge or achieving goals. It's about unlearning the things that no longer serve us - habits, beliefs, and even relationships. We have to move on from situations we once thought we'd always be in, and sometimes, we have to leave people behind who meant the world to us. That's the part no one told us about -the part where growth feels like breaking. The truth is, breaking is painful. It feels like losing parts of yourself, like the very foundation you've built your life on is crumbling. But here's the thing -breaking is necessary. You can't grow into who you're meant to be without first letting go of the old version of yourself. That means walking away from habits that used to protect you but now hold you back, and it means accepting that some people won't continue on this journey with you.
And there's the part where you have to face the world as a new version of yourself. People who have known you for years might not recognize who you're becoming. They may question your choices or even judge your changes. But as much as you might want to hold onto their comfort and validation, staying the same just to make others comfortable will only trap you in a cycle of self-betrayal.
"If we are strong enough to let it in, we are strong enough to let it go, to let it all out". We welcome change into our lives, and that takes strength. But it takes even more strength to release the things we've outgrown -the people, the habits, the parts of ourselves we no longer need. Letting go is an act of courage, even when it feels like breaking. But letting go doesn't mean we don't care. It doesn't mean erasing the memories or the lessons we've learned. You can still hold onto the beauty of those memories or lessons we've learned. You can still hold onto the beauty of those moments and the value they brought to your life. You can honor the past even as you step into the future. Letting go simply means making space for what's next, for the new experiences and people who are meant to join you on this path.
The truth is adult life isn't all about lessons and breaking. There's laughter, adventure, love, and a whole lot of joy too. But I think we talk less about the breaking because it's harder to admit how much we hurt as we grow. We don't speak enough about the tough moments of unlearning, walking away, and changing. We often think adulthood is just pushing forward, but part of it is looking back and realizing some things -and some people- are no longer meant to come with us.
So here we are, breaking and rebuilding, step by step. And it's okay to feel overwhelmed by it all. It's okay to feel lost in the middle of your own transformation. But know this: growth doesn't come without pain. And though the breaking hurts, it's part of what makes you stronger, wiser, and more in tune with who you are becoming.
Letting go is never easy, but it's something we all have to face. If you're feeling the weight of breaking and rebuilding, know you're not alone. We're all figuring out this adulting thing, one imperfect, beautiful step at a time .
We figure it with every step we make
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